“Organized Chaos” is what I call every morning and afternoon in our household. Who am I kidding, it really can be every minute of every day when you are a working mom and ALL moms are “working” moms regardless if they are employed outside the household or not. As a matter of fact, I thought when I “retired” from law enforcement the home I share with my husband and three children would run so much smoother. Well, the joke was on me!!!! Being newly retired I attended to my children’s extracurricular activities as if it were my full-time job! But let’s face it, I was still working part-time (3 different positions) and making my schedule around my children’s schedule, something had to give and soon found my housekeeping was the first thing to go. Now don’t get me wrong, you have to take this from where it is coming from, a TYPE A, thrive on a schedule type of person. So what really had gone by the wayside was my constant “worrying” about when I was going to be able to clean the house from top to bottom and began to just live in the moment with my family. This did not mean my house was a total disaster, although at times I did wonder how it was almost upside down, what it meant was I had to be willing to give up the notion that everything had to be in place, every single day and for every single minute. Although I was “retired” and presumably had more time to do all the cleaning, organizing, Marie Kondo if you will of our household, the truth was in the big picture of life IT IS NOT THAT IMPORTANT. Ok, let me clarify, a clean tidy house is important to me, but it was no longer a priority. Sure, family ALWAYS came first but keeping that house clean and tidy was right up there, so what did I learn to do differently? I learned that it was more important to be present and at my children’s activities then for the house to be “perfect”.
There are a few certain things we (and by we, I mean me) try to keep “non-negotiable” and they include:
1. Beds are made as soon as you get up and before you leave the house in the morning (ok so some mornings the beds don’t’ get made until after 10am but hey they are made!) Even a messy room or house looks much tidier when the beds are made.
2. Dishes are put into the dishwasher or washed before leaving the house. Now, this may happen 95% time but the same as above applies to this, a kitchen even if a bit messy, looks better if there are no dishes in the sink.
3. The house can be “messy” but it cannot be dirty! I stick to my “guns” and the house does get a full deep cleaning 1x per week but other than that if there are shoes in the mud room, backpacks on the bench, etc… it means we are blessed with kids and loved ones in the house!
To add to the regular chaos it is Murphy’s law that just when things are most hectic, ie; trying to get out of the house to a game, practice, event, etc…and some long lost friend decides to magically appear in the driveway or insert another scenario you are loading everyone into the car to get out to work and school and ask your child if they fed the _______(insert cat, dog, bunny, goat, you get the picture) and they say “oh shoot, be right back” only to see them a short moment later chasing said animal around the yard and trying to get it back into it’s cage! You can do two things at this moment; 1. Flip out and lose your mind or 2. Embrace the chaos, these moments are temporary. Days are long but years are short and before you know it you will find yourself on a random Tuesday afternoon “tidying” up and hearing faint sounds of kids at some type of ball practice somewhere in the near distance and tears will roll down your face missing those very hectic times, wishing you once again had someone to bring to practice. So busy mommas, EMBRACE THE CHAOS, roll with the punches best you can and love up on those kids and those crazy moments every chance you get because although these early days are tough, it is true they will be over in the blink of an eye!
Lisa will be speaking at Mom U. Her workshop is titled Female “Fit”ness; Fitting Fitness into our Overscheduled/Overbooked Lives! This married mom of 3 has figured out how to fit fitness into her world of organized chaos! Whether you work from home, travel for business, work 12 hour days or are the domestic engineer of your household, this workshop will give you tips for surviving the chaos by taking time to fit fitness into your routine.